Play & Mess
Teaching Kids to Clean Up Without a Fight
Every cleanup used to end in a standoff at our house. What actually fixed it wasn't a chart or a reward system, it was changing how the request itself sounded.
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Author · Devon Ashworth
I write Growing Up at Home from a house with two kids five years apart and a hallway that squeaks in all the wrong places. Most of what I know here I learned by doing it badly first, which is why the mistakes stay in the articles.
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